Being Self Centered And Selfish Does Not Help Manage Change Or Improve Our Life

Why would we want to live a self centered existence? Why would we want to be this selfish and ignore or avoid responsibilities elsewhere? Being egocentric will not help us to meet life's challenges or help us to manage the change that occurs around us each and every day.

Low self esteem may be a cause. We may need to seek help and assistance to change our focus and experience of life. And help remove the selfish aspects that we may fall prey too. But this may not be true in our case, only we can tell.

Does it just come down to a matter of ego? Is our ego so large that we need to protect it at all costs and feel that looking after number one is the only way to do this?

So what might the cause be? Arrogance might be one answer. Another might be a devil may care attitude.

We might feel that we are protecting ourselves by acting selfishly. Alas the effects are that we push other people away when we act in this way. After all, we don't like it when somebody ignores us or our feelings so why should it be any different when the shoe is on the other foot.

One can appear to be self centered if one has a poor self image, low confidence or low self esteem. These will help to keep us to ourselves and prevent us from participating in everyday life as we might wish.

In this case we should perhaps look for the root cause of these problems. What is making life difficult for us? What can we do to get out of this cycle and back onto an even footing?

There can be another and different slant . . .

It is possible to think only of oneself when most of our life is in sync. Then to promote oneself to the exclusion of others or to just think of oneself has a different meaning - selfishness or egocentric behavior.

When a person is only looking for personal advantage in nearly all situations we would do well to remain aware of this and if necessary to give them a wide berth.

We can feel sad and disappointed that one of our friends has turned to this manner of behaving but if they do not accept help nor try to give of themselves than what can we do?

When around self centered people we need to be aware that, although they may appear to be friendly and helpful, they may stab us in the back at the first opportunity if we appear to be getting in the way of their ambitions or goals.

Most of us, when we meet a person exhibiting this type of behavior, realize that it may prove difficult to change this person's perspective. Having come to this conclusion we may just walk away and leave them to themselves.

When it comes to managing change being self centered is not going to persuade other people to either help or support you. In fact often the reverse is the case.

We much prefer the companionship of those who give of themselves freely and without question. And we aim ourselves to live this life in this way.

On these self centered pages I hope we can examine some of these issues and become clear in our own mind about what they are and how to deal with them - in others or ourselves.

What will we be looking at on these pages?

What questions might we ask?

• What is an attachment?
• What part does argument play?
• How well do I take criticism?
• What part does chance play in life?
• Is attention important?
• What is this conversion?
• Can I attain my dreams and goals?

Hope you enjoy these pages and get what you need from them. Please feel free to contact me with any thoughts, comments, ideas or suggestions.

All best,Martin