How You Take Criticism Is A Mark Of You As A Person

How well do I take criticism?

And the answer?

• Do I take it on the chin and respond with thanks and with love?
• Do I sidestep the issues involved and say what has that got to do with me?
• Do I avoid the censure by trying to avoid all issues, saying it was nothing to do with me.

Or what might I be doing?

• Seeking the approval of others, people that I respect
• A case of mistaken identity - but do you say or not?
• Or do I say that it was not me and try to deflect the blame or the responsibility
• Or do I listen and respond defensively and not really take the advice or suggestions on board

Or do I listen, accept the responsibility and ask for help and assistance as to how I should have conducted things and how I might learn and improve for the future.

Do we feel that we are always right - a sure way to have a fall. Or do we feel that we yes we are not infallible and never wanted to be. And are grateful for any help and assistance that we can get.

Humility is important. We do not know everything, nor can do everything. If we err we probably did not do it on purpose. Apologize. And show that you are sorry for causing offense or disagreement or whatever. This can easily defuse the situation - if your are genuine - and both sides can take heart and move forward together and be more productive or work better together in the future.

Arrogance and thinking that you can do no wrong. And not accepting sincere help or advice is not often productive and may well cause an escalation of events and things may get unnecessarily out of control.

Try to live with dignity. Respect yourself and others. Realize that you are still learning. Realize that you need help m times to times. Understand that you have many things to learn, to see, to observe, to reflect on, to move you, to touch you, in your future life.

These qualities are within us all. Just with some of us we have hidden them well. Some think that is good to take the high ground and feel good for doing so - but if not based upon firm foundations and backed by a touch of humility - we know where this may well lead.

On the other hand take life with a more gentle touch. A lightness about you. If someone is critical of you or what you have done. Stand your ground. Respect yourself and them. Don't be walked over.

Accept it but feel free to say you think it is not justified. Or thank them and try to move on together.