If We Blame Another Do We Condemn Ourselves?

Is playing the blame game a good thing?

If this is your best chance then should you not be looking elsewhere?

By the blame game we commonly refer to the inability to take responsibility for what we do. We may feel embarrassed if something goes well or right. But we may try to hide and denounce our actions if things go awry, which they easily do (and even on the road to success).

Do we have to condemn others for things we may want to do ourselves but lack the courage? Do we wish to go round and criticize people for what they do?

Will we disapprove of others efforts while we sit round watching events unfold? Will we admonish others when we would do better to offer a helping hand?

Is this not looking at things from a skewed perspective? To start off on the wrong foot feels odd, as does not accepting responsibility for our actions.

Yes, having the character and the integrity to take command and accept that we have done things and the consequences. That is part of what being an adult should be.

Do we not feel about ourselves enough to want to stand up and be counted? Is this such a hard thing to do? Surely this should run counter to our feelings and value system.

We could say if we have not been brought up in an honorable and trustworthy way. To say yes I did that, rather than trying to hide the fact. That must be a sad state of affairs.

And we can do better. We can from now on do better. Let us from now on not turn aside but face these issues.

Let us tackle life head on. Not try to divert anything away. No. Feel and know that, though we are fallible, we are OK, we deserve to be heard, to be seen, to act.

And when we do does that not feel good. Feel natural. Feel the thing to do.

Follow your heart, your inner feelings. Find out that they will rarely let you down, provided that is backed up by good foundations. Good values and principles.

That when you say something you mean it. When you do something you put your heart into it. When you listen you are focusing and paying attention.

They may not say, but you will know - you will be respected for this stance. For it is not a stance, it is you just living your life.