Assertiveness Is Fine - Aggression Is Unnecessary

Do I need assertiveness?

Can I avoid it in any way?

Not easy perhaps, but you need to get your point across, but without putting the other person's back up and creating unnecessary hurdles for yourself.

Questions come to mind. (As an aside, we may wonder what would happen when questions cease - what occurs then? How would life be then?)

So some questions or thoughts or different slants and ideas

• I feel confident and that is fine, is it not?
• Can I be firm but pleasant and approachable at the same time?
• Nothing has worked so far, should I now be more demanding?
• I have decided what I wish to do, I just need to persuade the others now.
• I want to be positive but not aggressive - is that possible?
• Can I be decisive in my actions?
• I want to be forceful and emphatic - but I need them to like me, too.
• How insistent can I be?
• I don't really want to be pushy and in their face, but nothing else seems to work.
• When others are domineering and overbearing I clam up? Will they do the same to me?
• I am normally shy, but can I be self assured, too?

Where do we sit in all of that we may well be asking.

We have our own way in life. Our own way of interacting with others. We are learning the ropes as we go along. Meeting new situations every now and again.

And finding out what works and what does not. And finding how best we work and how best we tackle things.

And finding that out may be the biggest question of all and finding that there are answers quite comforting and motivating.